Psychologist Elaine Aron coined the term “highly sensitive person” (HSP) to describe individuals who have a heightened central nervous system sensitivity to physical, emotional, and social stimuli. This personality trait can bring both strengths and challenges, causing an HSP to feel distinct from others. For example, an HSP may be affected by violent movies or videos, and be uncomfortable in loud, crowded places with bright lights, but also deeply moved by art, nature, and beauty.
It is important to note that being highly sensitive is not a problem to be fixed, but rather a trait to be understood, embraced, and thrived with. As an HSP, it is helpful to read books about HSP traits to better understand oneself. I have listed five books that you may find helpful in this regard.
1. The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
This book is a reference in dealing with life as an HSP, Elaine N Aron is a psychotherapist, researcher, and highly sensitive person herself. She is the author of different books about HSP: The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, The Highly Sensitive Child, and the Highly Sensitive Person’s Workbook.
By delving into this book, you can gain an understanding of what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person and how to manage a finely-tuned nervous system. Through reading this book, you will be able to identify these traits in others, such as friends and family members, in order to understand them better. More importantly, you will learn how to use the HSP traits to your advantage, enabling you to flourish in an often-insensitive world.
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2. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking
Susan Cain’s talk on the strengths of introverts has gained widespread attention, with over 10 million views. In the seven years leading up to the release of her book “Quiet” in 2012, Cain researched and observed the growing emphasis on extroversion in American culture and the workplace. Through this book, readers can gain insights into why they may perceive the world differently, comprehend the potential obstacles and benefits of being an introvert, as well as learn useful strategies and tips to successfully navigate social and professional interactions and relationships.
3. Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self
The author Judy Dyer writes this book for people who have a natural ability to tune in to the feelings of others and to understand the experiences and feelings of others outside of their own perspective. She shares her lifelong experiences as an empath and comprehensive research on the many benefits and blessings associated with being an empath.
4. Daring To Take Up Space
In this collection of poetry, Daniell explores the emotions of fear of rejection, anger, and anxiety that arise when one attempts to assert oneself. Through her writing, Daniell delves into the process of accepting these feelings and the perseverance and inner strength needed to heal and cultivate self-love and acceptance. The book, “Daring to Take Up Space” is a powerful reminder that there is hope for growth and healing. It is a poetry book that readers may return to again and again. I highly recommend it to everyone and encourage them to read it at least once.
5. Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn’t Designed for You
Jenara Nerenberg’s book features real-life stories from women with various neurological variations such as high sensitivity, ADHD, autism, misophonia, dyslexia, SPD, and more. Through these stories, Nerenberg delves into how these brain variations manifest differently in women and dispels common misconceptions. The book also presents practical solutions for improving communication, environment design, and support for individuals with divergent minds through Nerenberg’s research and insights.
Conclusion :
Having heightened sensitivity can bring both challenges and gifts, such as strong intuition, creativity, and talent. Without proper understanding, it can lead to feeling like something is wrong with oneself. These recommended books provide knowledge and understanding of the trait, helping individuals learn how to embrace themselves and succeed in both personal and professional aspects of their life.
