How to Be Truly Yourself in A Fake World?

Are you really aware that you have the right to exist? The right to be entirely yourself, no matter how people around you react, the right to feel good about yourself, no matter the grades or diplomas you have completed?

How many times do you hold back from being truly yourself just to avoid offending your parents, your partner, your children, or your friends? You cover up yourself just to avoid conflicts to prevent hurting someone’s feelings, or sometimes just to please others and to seek their validation.

You live, but do you really exist?

When you don’t say what you think, you do not consider your limits, you do not make the right decisions according to your well-being. You reduce yourself to suit an expected image by others instead of being truly your authentic self.

When, since You were a child, you try to please others, to not disturb them, to not impose yourself, to not offend them, to not take up too much space, to not take YOUR place… Then you don’t really exist.

To recognize and to give yourself the right to exist, to live, to occupy a space in this life is to dare to live according to your values, is to accept your flaws, to accept your unhealed wounds, and to start giving yourself permission.

• An exercise to start with :

Take a pen and a blank paper, and start writing your needs, your tastes, your desires, your aspirations, and your dreams. You can start with small rights as your right of being respected, of expressing your ideas, of taking care of your mental and physical health… Then you can give yourself permission like saying No to a request, changing your opinions about a subject, failing, having weaknesses, making mistakes…

Giving yourself permission is to accept that you are human, that you are imperfect, that you have needs and to accept your limits.

It is not by shaping yourself to others that you will feel complete! It is by listening to the voice of your soul and embracing it.

One day, you must grant yourself the right to fully exist, even if your parents rejected you, even if you have difficulties finding your place in society, even if you have the impression of not being successful in your life. You have the right to exist completely. You have been chosen to come to this earth to accomplish your mission, to be authentic, true, and honest. To be yourself, whatever happens. Yes, we all have the right to exist. We are only missing OUR permission. Let us grant ourselves the right to exist fully and completely. Let us bloom like a sunflower, stand tall, and find the sunlight!